Thursday, October 30, 2008

Height of Confidence..or stupidity?

Q: What is height of confidence...or should i say plain stupidity?...
A: Thinking you will get a job during recession and quitting the current job without a new one in hand is the height of confidence or stupidity..Whatever...

Only time will tell...

Wednesday, October 29, 2008

This too shall pass....

I guess when i wrote 'Its just a question of time'...what i wanted to say at the back of my mind was what is written below....Someone from Office sent it as a inspiration for being dedicated at work despite the current recession in the country...However, i found it more relevant to be applicable at every stage in life, rather than just at work...Its applicable to every soul at every point of time in life...I understood this very late...I had read something similar yrs back...but i understood it only about 6 months back....Its funny that some things so simple which have been told to us maybe by our grandparents and parents...strike us so late...either through our own experience..or through your close ppl going through the same....


------"Once a king called upon all of his wise men and asked them, ' Is there a mantra or suggestion which works in every situation, in every circumstance, in every place and every time. In every joy, every sorrow, every defeat and every victory? One answer for all questions? Something which can help me when none of you is available to advise me? Tell me is there any mantra?'

All the wise men were puzzled by the King's question. They thought and thought. After a lengthy discussion, an old man suggested something which appealed to all of them. They went to the king and gave him something written on paper, with a condition that the king was not to see it out of curiosity. Only in extreme danger, when the King finds himself alone and there seems to be no way, only then he can see it. The King put the papers under his Diamond ring.

Some time later, the neighbours attacked the Kingdom. King and his army fought bravely but lost the battle. The King had to flee on his horse. The enemies were following him, getting closer and closer. Suddenly the King found himself standing at the end of the road - that road was not going anywhere. Underneath there was a rocky valley thousand feet deep. If he jumped into it, he would be finished...and he could not return because it was a small road...the sound of enemy's horses was approaching fast. The King became restless. There seemed to be no way.

Then suddenly he saw the Diamond in his ring shining in the sun, and he remembered the message hidden in the ring. He opened the diamond and read the message. The message was - ' THIS TOO SHALL PASS'

The King read it. Again read it. Suddenly something struck him- Yes! This too will pass. Only a few days ago, I was enjoying my kingdom. I was the mightiest of all the Kings. Yet today, the Kingdom and all his pleasure have gone. I am here trying to escape from enemies. Like those days of luxuries have gone, this day of danger too will pass. A calm came on his face. He kept standing there. The place where he was standing was full of natural beauty. He had never known
that such a beautiful place was also a part of his Kingdom. The revelation of the message had a great effect on him. He relaxed and forgot about those following him. After a few minutes he realized that the noise of the horses and the enemy coming was receding. They moved into some other part of the mountains.

The King was very brave. He reorganized his army and fought again. He defeated the enemy and regained his empire. When he returned to his empire after victory, he was received with much fanfare. The whole capital was rejoicing in the victory. Everyone was in a festive mood. Flowers were being showered on King from every house, from every corner. People were dancing and singing. For a moment King said to himself,' I am one of the bravest and greatest King. It is not easy to defeat me. With all the reception and celebration he felt an ego emerging in him.

Suddenly the Diamond of his ring flashed in the sunlight and reminded him of the message. He opened it and read it again: 'THIS TOO SHALL PASS'. He became silent. His face went through a total change -from the egoist he moved to a state of utter humbleness. If this too is going to pass, it is not yours. The defeat was not yours, the victory is not yours. You are just a watcher. Everything passes by. We are witnesses of all this. We are the perceivers. Life comes and goes. Happiness comes and goes. Sorrow comes and goes."------

Now as you have read this story, just sit silently and evaluate your own life. This too will pass. Think of the moments of joy and victory in your life. Think of the moment of Sorrow and defeat. Are they permanent? They all come and pass away. Life just passes away. There is nothing permanent in this world. Every thing changes except the law of change. Think over it from your own perspective. You have seen all the changes. You have survived all setbacks, all defeats and all sorrows. All have passed away. The problems in the present, they too will pass away. Because nothing remains forever.

Joy and sorrow are the two faces of the same coin. They both will pass away. You are just a witness of change. Experience it, understand it, and enjoy the present moment - this too shall pass!

Sunday, October 26, 2008

Life is beautiful...

"Krishna is Attraction"...I read this 4 yrs back in one of Gurujis books..It basically was a small paragraph--the gist saying that you will never find Lord Krishna in the temple or in any idol form…you will find him wherever there is love…wherever there is attraction….wherever there is Leela….I could not understand that…and read it and just left it as it is….…..guruji says if you don’t understand some things just let it be…at some point of time in life you will understand the meaning…..


I used to travel to the city during my first job for the first 3 months by bus…it was the most convenient in the rains as my parents would not let me take the two wheeler and moreover the bus dropped me right from my home to front of the office….The public transport has 2 seats reserved for Physically disabled…everyday both the seats used to be occupied by 3-4 blind ppl and their 2-3 kids….and I started noticing their daily ritual…they got down from the bus one stop before mine…however…3 stops in advance they used to start preparing themselves to get down from the bus….the mother used to start taking all the bags together and then the kids who sat on the lap(Who had sight…Only the parents were sightless)….so the kids used to start getting up and looking out of the window….and then the most surprising thing used to happen…the mother used to start making the kids ready….as in.. used to check the girls plaited hair…used to check if her frock is proper…if the frock belt is tied…used to then take her hand to her face….lovingly touch her face all over….I could not believe what I was seeing…a sightless mother made her daughter ready like any ordinary person…with the same love and care…her being sightless did not stop her from doing anything what an ordinary mother would have done…and the child also complained to the mother saying that the frock belt was not tied properly…and the mother tied it again….It was the most beautiful sight I saw…the love that I saw in the entire 5 minute scene was unfathomable…..and the happiness I felt was what anyone could term as bliss….I was filled with an emotion I could not explain…and that’s when I realized…..This is Krishna…This is love…and this is what Guruji meant when he said what he had…..I realized this some 6 months after reading it……

Its been three and half yrs since the above incident...and what made me write this was something i see everyday--as I go for my daily morning walk I see a grandfather with his 1.5 yrs granddaughter in ‘godi' walking slowly….its like a morning walk for the 2 of them….occasionally the toddler will be walking on the ground with the grandfather holding her hand…the grandfather is very old…maybe about 80 odd….in fact he can barley walk at a normal pace….but in my one hour of walking they walk about a kilometer….and the baby in the grandfathers arms will keep yapping…then occasionally the grandfather will keep showing her something in the sky..or some flower...or some puppies who have come for a walk with their owners..….then both of them will stare at something and smile at each other….it’s the most beautiful sight I see everyday morning…in fact if I get a little late…I actually land up searching for them everyday….and love the sight every time I cross them….its like they have their own world….and for both of them they are the world for each other for that time….This sight actually makes my day…..and reminds me of the fact that Krishna is attraction…..

Everyday it reminds me that anywhere and everywhere there is beauty in small events, incidents and with unknown ppl…and the least expected ppl will touch your life…..and when I sit down with my daily complaint list to God…I remem these things and reduce my complaints;-)

On a serious note….it keeps me going in life…small events like these which are not even remotely related to me make me happy and strengthen my belief...that there is so much in life that is beautiful which we fail to notice....Life is beautiful...

Friday, October 24, 2008

Just a Question of Time!

Is there a time when you just have resistance to do anything at all in Life?...Even move from one place to another?...Even to fill your bottle of water?...I generally have this feeling on Sundays....But dont know why i feel this on my working day this time..This resistance coupled with not wanting to talk to anyone is a dangerous combination...Coz it then leads me to a super thinking mode which can actually be thinking about anything under the sun...or simply frustrates me that i am unable to do anything i want to do...and what i want to do would vary from...maybe...running...to painting..to start playing badminton again...to travel by train to a destination which will atleast take me one day to reach...to maybe be on the very flight which has taken off from the airport and has just flown above me...or maybe just be back home in Pune in my room near the window... maybe just sit with my parents in their room and talk...or maybe walk along window-shopping on the most crowded road in Pune...or just racing on the signal on our Yamaha YBX...or maybe just go to a village and stay there helping out people...teaching the children there...walking on wet sand on the beach which leaves my footprint just for seconds on the sand before taking another shape....

All these thoughts keep soaring in my head and then i think...What am i doing here?...Do i really want to be here?...Is this what i want to do in my life?...More often than not...I dont find answers to what i ask myself...and i feel ignoring the question might dilute my want for an answer...but it just keeps coming back...all the time-every time!..and then neither can i hide what i feel...nor do i want to answer anyone who sees my face and questions me "Whats wrong"?....The problem is i cant hide what i think or feel...not so much as in words...but in my expression and my voice..and honestly...I really dont want to answer anyone in life on anything at all...coz one answer leads to another question and so on...But i do know of so many ppl who are able to hide their emotions and thought process...and i am in awe of such ppl...coz to have the ability to not show what one feels is amazing...frankly- i have never managed it...whenever I am happy...it reflects and i say so...and when I am upset-it reflects and i say so....My 10th Std teacher had told me once..."Uttara, you are a open book, your face and voice reflects everything"...and looks like i am stuck with this for life....

But theres one thing that gives me solace...If i feel resistance now...i will feel something else in some time...nothing remains constant...and neither will this feeling...Its just a question of remembering this fact everytime...that in some time things will change again...for Sure!...A colleague of mine got transferred to hyd from today and i I felt a little down for some time in the morning coz i was so used to the person being around...but then i have felt this before--When i left my first job...when i got transferred to Bombay from Pune and on my last day in Pune office i was upset on leaving behind memories of 2 years.. when a colleague of mine left the organization same time last year...when 2 more colleagues left in May...when another friend went to a new department in June...everytime i had felt bad..and every time the feeling went off in some time...and i know even this one will go...

The only thing i need to remember that nothing is constant...things will change...Its just a question of Time!!

Wednesday, October 1, 2008

Silence...

Prayer within breath Is silence...
Love within Infinity Is silence...
Wisdom without word Is silence...
Compassion without aim Is silence...
Smiling with all the Existence Is silence...


Words reduce our experiences to a concept. They only solidify things. Can you simply enjoy the autumn leaves and let go? Can you be totally with the experience of their mystery and beauty?

Yet the mind likes to put words to it. When we speak them out, that beautiful deep feeling gets solidified into those words.

If we repeat the words over and over, that silent, deep, mysterious feeling becomes lost in the words. Then we are left only with words.

Be willing to be wordless. Then if words do come up, they become poetry. Or prayer. Or singing. These words move us deeply.

Do you think that maybe, after all these years, you've said everything you need to say, perhaps even several times over?

Can you be wordless ... for just a little while?

-Sri Sri RaviShankar

Sunday, August 3, 2008

My World..

Although this is the most common thing that everyone speaks about....but the fact is that...the emotion i feel when i see my parents...'My world'...is one of the strongest i feel in life....my weekend trips at home have reduced quite a bit...and it all the more bothers me...that i cant even see them every weekend.....even the thought of what i am writing brings tears in my eyes now....and i feel there are some emotions which just cant be exressed in words!.....This weekend when i was home...for the first time i saw my Dad tired...I have never seen him tired...and my heart cries out...coz i cant see my parents get old...i cant see them get tired...and i cant stop feeling bad that i am not with them...and probably might never be with them permanently...

At time like this i feel nothing in life is worth not being with your parents...They are my source...and they are the reason i am today....they are my world!...

Saturday, March 15, 2008

What Next?

I read a saying on one of my friends T Shirt around 6 yrs back...."Heard It.. Seen It.. Done It.. What Next"? I thought it was really pervert!..(Which might not be the case!)...But then a few yrs later i also realized something else...

...You are born...a child..a student...college life and a teenager...then you go through the normal adulthood in life...while you are studying you make so many friends..small successes...recognitions....fights....get infatuated...fall in love sometimes...sometimes, a couple of times...then graduate...get a job..marry either your love or someone else...have a career...have a blissful 2 to 3 yrs of marriage where nothing else but your life partner counts...and every moment spent seems magical with no end....then have a child...In a few months reality strikes!!!......By the time you become a parent..your parents are old till then...suddenly you are at an age when you start attending a lot of ppl getting married and starting new lives... and a lot of your parents generations parting life...At a point you lose even your own family members...theres no time to even break down coz you are someone elses support till then...then education of your children...they grow...resposibilities and more responsibilities..the same person you are married to becomes a burden and there are fights and there are struggles...you manage through all of this keeping yourself sane and your family together!..Your children become big...their college...and they get married...if you are fortunate enough then you have the company of your life partner even at a later stage...and then old age...and then what next?...Is it death?..Or is it another life?...And is all of it actually worth the entire trouble of life?.....A few of the ppl say its the way the 'life chakra is'...you come into the world and have to complete the natural cycle...You start off alone.....you run along life pretty much doing something which loses a meaning a few yrs down the line...coz at every point of time something else is 'more important' at every stage of life....at 20 you laugh at your stints of 10, at 40 you laugh at your youth...and at 60 you sometimes wonder if what you did at 40 was important at all?..Few ppl live till 80...but at 80 you are a child again....It all changes at every stage of life...
What we call life...some ppl dont even realize its come and gone by...some die at birth, some as a child...some at youth..

So what is it that man hopes for when he says i will do it the next time?Or that next time things will be better....What is the next time?....Is it even there??????????
And at any point of time, what is 'next in life ' ?...Is it love? food? money? satisfaction? shelter? career? friends? marriage? sex? family? peace? How long will you want all of this?...And if you get all of it then what next?....
What next after doing it all?...

Must of us fortunate have everything we need from the time we were small...Or maybe this is a question just for people who get it all easily..Who are born in a decent family...have parents, a good childhood,...a good career...and settled in life....
And maybe such questions come to ppl who are simply oversmart and have nothing else to do in life?...I dont know...

Another way around..
maybe this question does not arise with those ppl who are born orphans...who need love, shelter...ppl who are born handicapped...or ppl who live their whole life in order to simply get food for one time..or who have never ever had a place called home...who know that they have to search for place or sometimes abondon shame to even shit!!!...for such people there is no time to think coz their every minute is a struggle to survive....Do these ppl have a question of What Next??? Would they even want to know What Next?

SO there is a next in everyones life..But what is it?...Arent we all in search of it?....
Or am i simply just so content that i want to skip everything in life and just go next to.... (Probably to my source?)....Is that the search and that the 'next'??....... and maybe this next will be the 'Last'???

Or sometimes i feel am i making too much of it all???????????..Who Cares???? Do i need to worry at all?...Does anyone ever come to this stage in life where they feel what next?...Or am i the only one?...Or then am i just being a fake seeker of life who knows nothing and craves for everything....not content despite getting everything in life and STILL in search of the answer.... 'What Next'???

Maybe ....i dont know... just maybe...would it be right to say....that....I cry for a shoe when there are ppl with no feet!!!!